Every New Year, you tell yourself that things are going to change. Perhaps you follow through, perhaps you don’t. But this year, you plan on changing your behavior and antics when it comes to sex.
It’s pretty disappointing, but very true — most people don’t discuss sex… and that’s fine. But if you’re not talking about sex with the person you’re having it with, that’s pretty sad.
And that’s where I come in. As the one year has come to a close, there’s a brand new year to look forward to, and with the brand new year should come the commitment to have better sex.
That said, here are some resolutions you should have considered adopting by midnight on December 31.
1- Be more spontaneous
It’s about time you started doing things on a whim. Now I know that being busy usually results in having to plan for sex, but there has to be at least a few occasions in which you’re able to come on to your girl on a whim.
Make a commitment to not just have sex with her spontaneously, but kiss her passionately, rub her shoulders and flirt with her for no reason. All these things will improve your sex life.
2- Try new positions
There’s missionary, doggy and her on top. But wait, there is more. From variations on the same old thing, to positions that you may need to up your flexibility factor for, use this year to try different maneuvers in bed.
3- Try new locations
Speaking of bed, why is it that most of us tend to stick to the same old location when it comes to sex? It’s always in the bedroom, on the bed. But all that’s gonna change this year, right? Of course it is.
This year is all about outdoor sex. Brr. Okay, maybe not, but it’s about time you took baby steps and headed outside the bedroom to other areas of your home, like the kitchen, the dining room, or even the bathroom. New locations tend to give couples the feeling that they’re being more daring and this, in turn, makes them feel wilder. And that’s all good.
Talk more sex and of course, break out the handcuffs…
4- Talk more sex
It’s pretty disappointing, but very true — most people don’t discuss sex… and that’s fine. But if you’re not talking about sex with the person you’re having it with, that’s pretty sad.
Now I’m not suggesting that you get into the technicalities of sex, but you should definitely discuss what you like, what she likes, how often, where, and why. Otherwise, how will you or she ever know how to keep the other happy?
As well, it wouldn’t hurt you to start talking dirty every once in a while. Of course, there are different levels of dirty talk and if you’ve never done it before, you’ll want to start small. Start off by discussing fantasies, then sexual acts, and finally, you can take the leap into role-play.
5- Get kinkier
From something as mild as watching porn together to something as wild as visiting a swingers club, this is the year when you’re going to explore the world of sex to discover exactly what it is that turns you on.
Let her dominate, then you dominate. Use tethers and blindfolds in your foreplay. Buy her an outfit you’ve always wanted to see her in and then rip it off her. Make this the year that you and your girl grow closer together by exploring what you both enjoy when it comes to seamier side of sex.
A new year of sex
So there they are; sexual resolutions that you should adopt this year and use for the rest of your life.
Finally, some resolutions you’ll want to keep. Until next time, make every day of your life feel like January 1.
